Current mood: confused
I loved my wedding, we had fun, our guests were great. Afterward we did the sorting of things and found that some people who came did not even extend the courtesy of a card.
I don't need your money, but a gesture of a card would be nice, ok? So, I thought this was weird, and asked other married people but they too, had several guests who came with nothing for the couple. Personally, I would never attend a wedding without a gift for the couple, it's just rude. So, I looked up some etiquette for all you folks and here's the scoop.
"Contrary to popular belief, there is no calculable amount of money each person attending a wedding should spend on a wedding gift. It is not the amount of money spent on the reception divided by the number of guests. A gift should be a token of affection, and is not intended to pay for the wedding. However, to not send a gift altogether is in poor taste. A wedding invitation carries with it an obligation to send a gift, even if you cannot attend the actual wedding. Depending on your relationship with the couple, the gift can be small, or something more substantial."
And Emily Post, wedding etiquette queen:
If you are invited to the ceremony and/or reception, you should send a gift, whether you are attending or not. Generally, gifts are sent to the bride in advance of the wedding. In some localities, gifts are brought to the reception and placed on a special table.
Now, I don't want anything, but for crap sake's when you people attend weddings in the future, bring a gift!